mom secretly tried to put my newborn up for adoption because she thought my baby would steal attention from my sister’s wedding so I got the law involved and now she’s convicted so my sister is getting married at the end of this year and I gave birth to my son about 3 weeks ago everybody was happy about this apart from my mother and I was not even surprised because to her nothing is more important than her darling baby and that happens to be my little sister I obviously got pregnant about a while ago and my sister got engaged to her

boyfriend of 3 years when I was 6 months pregnant and anybody who understands math would know that by the time my sister got married I would have given birth to the baby already it would have been one thing if my sister was the kind of person who wanted a small wedding and would plan it quickly but she wanted an elaborate and Grand wedding which would obviously take a lot of time and she and her fiance had been quite clear about that right from the beginning but even then a couple of weeks after their engagement my mom showed up at my house

looking all worried and stuff and she told me that she wanted me to do something about my pregnancy because she did not want me to upset my sister my sister and I are not close in the slightest she’s a spoiled brat and ever since my father passed away a couple of years ago we have had no contact the only reason I even stayed in touch with my mother after my Dad’s passing was because I had promised him that I would look after her because he did not think my sister would be up to the task she was just not responsible enough and even

though my sister had always been my mom’s favorite I had tried my best to maintain a relationship with her until recently when she showed up at my house to tell me that my sister was engaged and was getting married I thought that she had just come over over to share the good news with me but she then went on to tell me that since I was giving birth the same year as she was getting married it would take away her Limelight because obviously a pregnancy was a bigger Milestone than a wedding I don’t even understand what that was about and I

told her that she was being paranoid unnecessarily because first of all it’s not like people would skip her wedding because I had a baby or whatever and I wasn’t even going to be invited to her wedding since she hadn’t even been invited to mine because we’re not friends so there was no way that I could overshadow her I wouldn’t even be there and she or my mom had nothing to worry about and I’m not some celebrity so I was pretty sure that even at her wedding nobody would be talking about me or my baby I thought that these were all valid

points but my mother told me that I needed to hide my pregnancy and my baby from everyone in the family and all our common friends as well because she did not want me to steal my sister’s Limelight I thought that it was crazy and I got into a huge fight with her after which I did not speak to her anymore I felt bad about breaking my promise to my father but there was no other option for me because she was obviously acting scile and I was already pregnant and quite irritable I just couldn’t handle her idiotic statements

so she hasn’t been there for anything after that it’s just been me my husband and his family taking care of the baby ever since he was gone and my mother wasn’t even there for the birth of the child my husband had called her that day but she had refused to show up since she was out with my sister that day I’m pretty sure that even if she hadn’t been out with her she still wouldn’t have shown up because I’m just not a priority for her and that’s the bitter truth if she could have abandoned her own daughter in our relationship because she

thought that I was was stealing the Limelight from my sister just by giving birth then I had nothing to say to her so because of all of these things we had absolutely no contact and I was fine with it but then she called me up a couple of days ago and when I did not answer initially she started texting me frantically and told me to answer the call because she had to talk to me about something very important that happened it was clear that she had some bad news to share with me and I really did not want to talk to her but then I just kept

thinking about the promise that I had made to my father and decided to answer her and I’m really glad that I did because that’s how I found out that she is in legal trouble because she tried to put my baby up for adoption without our consent and the adoption agency found out about it it was a case of Fraud and misrepresentation because apparently she had contacted an adoption agency and falsely claimed that she had the power of attorney since both my husband and I were addicts and had been deemed unfit to take care of our baby by the court so

now as the custodial caretaker of the baby she had decided to put him up for adoption but obviously they easily found out that all the legal documentation that she had provided had been fake and immediately stopped the process now they were going to take this up legally and basically she was calling me because she was scared about what was about to happen next she had been informed by them that they were going to take legal action against her and she would be served in a couple of days but before they could find out how to contact me

and inform me she decided to tell me about it herself so I would be able to help her out somehow she had been crying on the phone and begging me to help her out but I could hardly even understand how she could expect me to help her when she had done something so horrible I could understand that she wanted my sister to have all that Limelight but going out of her way to put my baby up for adoption that was just disgusting and I think it was pretty stupid as well because this way it’s just going to bring more attention to me because now I

plan on suing her too after she explained the situation to me I just disconnected the phone call because I had nothing to say to her anymore I did not feel bad for her at all in fact I thought that she deserved this and even worse of course later that day I was contacted by the adoption agency so they could let me know what was going on and I could do the needful I had already spoken to my husband after my mother’s phone call and after the adoption agency contacted us as well the two of us decided that we were going to pursue

legal action against her as well because there was no way that she could do something like that and hope to get away with it so we spoke to a lawyer a day after that and within a few days we had filed the civil lawsuit against her the proceedings against her are going to start soon but given the seriousness of the situation criminal charges have been filed against her as well so there is little to no scope for mediation the best that she can hope for is an outof Court settlement or maybe a plea bargain for the criminal charges but

even then she might be facing jail time anyway she’s under house arrest right now but she can still contact me and that’s why she has been sending me emails one after the other and begging me to help her out somehow at least she’s been apologizing and telling me that she just got away because she had been very upset with my decision not to hide my baby in my pregnancy for my sister’s sake but obviously she knows that it was a messed up thing to do and she’s really sorry for it I had been able to ignore her so far but then she

hit me when it hurt yesterday and reminded me that I had promised my father that no matter what I would always take care of her and this didn’t seem like taking care of her right now that kind of caught me off guard because I had had that conversation with my father in private and I didn’t even know that she knew about that promise that I had made so now Ida for suing my mother for trying to put my baby up for adoption without my consent or knowledge update one I have decided not to drop the civil lawsuit against her she

deserves this she brought this on to herself and not going to back down just because of the promise that I had made I had taken it very seriously for the past couple of years ever since my father passed away and I had tried my best to live up to the promise that I had made but at this moment it’s just emotional manipulation and it’s emotional manipulation at its finest which is why I almost fell for it as well but using my father to defend herself that’s just low a lot of people have criticized me for even bothering to live up to the

promise for so long when it was so evident that my mother couldn’t care less about me but I don’t know if you guys have ever lost a parent that stuff is heavy and I lost my father to cancer so this was literally a promise that I had made to him on his deathbed I don’t know about everybody else but that’s not the kind of thing that I can take lightly and that’s why I’ve been putting up with my mother for so long but this is crossing a line anyway now that I have made up my mind nothing can make me back down and even my husband thinks

that I have made the right call I’m not even asking for a lot of money I just want her to pay whatever I have spent on her in the past couple of years because I have been taking care care of her since my sister wouldn’t spend even a dollar on her to be fair to her though she doesn’t spend any money on anybody apart from herself so it’s not very surprising and it’s probably the reason why my father had asked me to be there for my mom but I don’t think he could have seen something like this happening at any point in the future I’m sure that

he will forgive me for this and even if he doesn’t I still have to do it for my own sake I also thought it through her having to pay back the money that she owes me is not going to cost her everything I know for a fact that my father had not only left her the house but a substantial sum of money as well so she will be able to get by and even apart from that she has her brother to take care of her after me and even if she does lose everything because of this lawsuit it’s still not going to be any of my concern because I have tried my

very best and it’s not been enough and I don’t think anything will ever be enough for her I am done trying to be a good daughter I’m simply a mother now and that’s my only priority update too so it has been a few weeks since my last update and we are currently in the process of mediating since everybody wants to settle the civil lawsuit out of court it hasn’t been going well so far and we have had to terminate every session after a while because my mother would get too emotional and would start screaming and stuff I don’t know if

that’s her strategy or if she’s actually losing it whatever the case is it’s just delaying the inevitable and I don’t think she realizes that there is no way out of this for her my uncle has also reached out to me to try and convince me to back off and he has told me that the amount that I’m demanding from her as a settlement is way too huge and unfair he has also brought up the fact that she was the one who had raised me from one when I was a baby and this is really ungrateful of me not to forgive her for one stupid little mistake but that’s the

thing it was not a stupid little mistake she had literally with false documentation and I don’t think if it had been a heat of the- moment session she would have been able to come up with that it was all premeditated and that’s the scary part because by some fluke if the adoption agency hadn’t done its due diligence she probably wouldn’t even have been caught and the more that I think about the situation the less forgiving I feel and I feel like no amount of money is ever going to make up for what she did at least I’m being kind

enough to only demand whatever I had spent on her so far and not a single dollar more obviously that’s not mentioned anywhere in the paperwork so he wouldn’t know that but even when I mentioned that to him he still told me that it was extremely unfair of me to do so after a while I started getting agitated and I really did not want to fight with him because so far my uncle and I have not had a bad relationship and I do not want to ruin that but since he seemed to be bent on doing exactly that I started fighting with him as well

I told him that if he cared so much about his sister then maybe he should just bail her out by offering to bear the cost of the settlement himself and then we could be done with this a lot quicker and that’s when he started yelling at me and stuff calling me all sorts of names and I ended the phone call because clearly there was no point in speaking to him anymore I don’t even understand how anybody can find themselves to defend her right now given the circumstances on one hand I had my uncle and on the other I have my sister

who has been insufferable ever since she found out about the lawsuit against our mother I don’t know why but she has been making me out to be the villain in this situation claiming that I’m doing this all because I want to get back at her and my mom for not paying me enough attention at least my uncle had the guts to come speak to me directly she has been speaking behind my back to everybody that we know and that’s how everybody in the family has been able to find out about the lawsuit and stuff I really did not want that happening

because I did not want to answer questions since this is really personal and kind of disturbing and I didn’t think that it was necessary for me to talk to people about this but since she is been talking everybody’s ears off about it people have had a lot of questions and have been reaching out to me as well so even though I did not want to bring it up with anyone right now I’m having to answer questions and the only reason I’m even doing it is because at some point I might have to get them to testify if this goes to court so I’m

just consoling Myself by telling myself that this was bound to come out at some point at the other so better now than later but the bigger problem is the narrative that my sister has been setting like I got vindictive and stuff and that’s why I am pursuing this legally I don’t even think she understands the graph of what our mother has been trying to do and this is not some sort of sibling rivalry that is manifesting itself in the form of lawsuits and whatever I don’t even understand how somebody can be so stupid

and self-involved but well it’s my sister so it’s not very surprising after all she is my mother’s true daughter anyway I’ve been speaking to the rest of my family and it’s kind of funny that this whole thing had actually started because my mother wanted my sister’s wedding to be the event of the year and that’s why she wanted me to hide my pregnancy and my baby and stuff but now because of her her own actions this is going to be the family highlight for a long time to come not just this year I hate to acknowledge it but it’s pretty

scandalous from a gossip point of view and if I myself had not been involved in this directly I probably would have found it pretty juicy as well it sounds a bit trashy to say out loud but it’s really just poetic justice for my sister because now not even her wedding can top something like this update three hi so my mother has agreed to our terms and enough we will be receiving our settlement money but apart from that she is still under trial for her criminal charges right now she and her lawyer are doing their best to get her out of it

without any jail time but for now it’s looking Bleak from what I know I have already been asked to testify by the prosecution and so have the people from the adoption agency so let’s see how that goes aart from that even my sister and a couple of other people from the family who are close to us have also been contacted it has been a couple of weeks since our last update and so far things have been going well for our family we even managed to sneak in a short weekend trip with our son so we could go see his great-grandparents I

don’t mean my grandparents they’re not around anymore but thankfully my husband’s grandparents are still around and when we went to see them and spoke to them about whatever was going on in our family they told me that I was doing the right thing by stepping up for my child I even shared the guilt that I was feeling because I had broken my promise to my father but they told me that I had nothing to feel bad about because if my father had been around he would have probably told me to go for it because this is just insane so that made me feel

considerably better about everything and I guess I really needed a change of scenery because when I came back I started feeling really refreshed and it had definitely been quite a distressing experience for me so far because even though my mother and I had had differences in the past it had never gone to these levels in the last couple of sessions with our lawyers she had probably realized that screaming and terminating our sessions was not going to make anything better and eventually it would end up going to court and that

would probably end even more badly for her so probably at the advice of her lawyer she decided to behave herself and let her lawyer do all the talk she would hardly even look at me and even when she would she would look very quickly like she couldn’t bring herself to even glance at me and I think it’s a good thing because she doesn’t deserve to feel like she has the right to even see me anymore my uncle and my sister are still actively spreading hate against me in the family but that hardly matters to me because anybody who wants

to be on my side they are going to be on my side nevertheless and people who just want to gossip I’m sure that they are going to stick to the sidelines and not actively get involved so they don’t pose any threat to me and as long as that’s happening I’m fine with whatever they’re saying about me because I’m secure enough to know that it won’t make it the truth just because they’re saying it update 4 so it’s been a little over a month since my last update and my mother had agreed to my terms and a couple of weeks ago our settlement money finally

came through we are setting that aside for our son’s future because we can do without that money right now we are quite happy with it because anyway this was the money that we were owed since this is what I had been spending on my mother in the past couple of years after my father passed away my sister knows that but in spite in spite of that she showed up the other day and started accusing me of ruining her wedding because apparently our mother had promised her that she would pay for part of the wedding and now since I had sued

her and taken back all the money that she had our mother won’t be able to live up to that anymore and it’s all my fault apparently it was crazy because literally why she was yelling at me about it she had mentioned it herself that I had taken back all the money that she had taken back which meant that it was originally mine so it’s not like she wasn’t aware of the situation and in spite of that she still thought it was appropriate to be yelling at me instead of questioning why any of this was happening at all when she showed up I

hadn’t even let her in so I had been speaking to her at the door and the second she started yelling at me I slammed the door shut because I really did not need this I was already quite busy with work because even though I was on maternity leave I was still trying to work from home so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed when I rejoined and on top of that I had to look after my son as well so I did not have time for this drama but even when I shut the door she did not take the hint and continue to stand outside and scream about how

unfair everything had been for her after a while when she still did not leave I started to get annoyed and I decided to call the cops within a couple of minutes they had shown up and while they were dragging her away she started cursing at me so loudly that even the neighbors who had probably been peeking outside from behind the curtains until then actually came out to watch what was going on it was extremely embarrassing and while she was cursing at me she also said a bunch of concerning things about me and my

child I don’t want to repeat that but they were pretty threatening and I didn’t feel comfortable with it at all I had already called my husband up and told him what was going on as soon as I had called the cops so he came back home earlier than usual and I told him whatever my sister had been saying or rather threatening us with while the cops were dragging her away one of the officers had even suggested that we file a restraining order because obviously there was something very wrong going on with her and we do think that it would

be a good idea to go ahead with the rest of the restraining order because I really don’t feel safe anymore now that I think about it she not only knows where I live she knows every other way how to contact me and if she took it upon herself to try and make me feel uncomfortable she would easily succeed in doing so I’m not saying that she’s going to go ahead and do whatever she had threatened me with but even apart from that there are other ways to intimidate a person and I’m just scared because I’m a mother now and I don’t

want episodes like this repeating again so after a really long discussion with my husband we decided that we were going to move I had already been planning to change my phone number and other contact info so that people wouldn’t be able to contact me without having a good relationship with me first it’s not even just about my sister I’ve had a lot of messages and phone calls from people who only wanted gossip and it’s getting really annoying at this point so that was another reason for me to change everything because the last thing that I

need is visitors who only want to talk about this situation and gossip about it my husband has been doing well for himself and if we need to we can just ask my in-laws to help out as well but we will definitely be moving and we will also definitely be filing for a restraining order against my sister because she’s clearly unhinged and I don’t don’t want her coming around anymore everything has been pretty expensive for us so far because we have had to pay for our lawyer and of course we have a newborn with us so even that’s

pretty expensive the finances have been a bit tight recently and with the move and everything it’s probably going to get even more expensive for us but when I think about my son it seems worth the trouble I’m honestly just really tired of everything but my husband and my son are the only people who keep me going and motivated to do better I don’t think I said enough but I’m really happy and lucky to have found a partner who understands me so well and I would say that I’m pretty lucky that even his family has been standing by me

throughout all of this to be frank after my dad had passed away it was mostly my in-laws who had been there for me even more than my own mother and I know for a fact that not everybody is lucky enough to have such wonderful in-laws so I’m very thankful for them as well it has been a really messy and exhausting past couple of months and I’m just really hoping that it comes to an end soon update five hey so last week the verdict of my mother’s trial finally came through and she has been convicted on all charges since she is a firsttime

offender she’s going to have to pay a huge fine as restitution to both the adoption agency and me along with several hours of community service she has been able to dodge incarceration but she does have to attend court-mandated mental health treatment and a rehabilitation facility since her lawyer made it seem like she had been going through some psychological stuff I’m not in touch with her anymore and haven’t been ever since she agreed to the terms of our civil lawsuit and we came to a settlement I found out about it from a

couple of family members and well I guess it’s fair enough I also managed to get a restraining order against my sister soon after my last update so that’s another win for me we are currently in the process of moving houses and it’s a bit stressful but well we can handle it and especially with the money that’s about to come in it’s been a huge relief for us so we might not need to ask our in-laws for help at all and we won’t even need to dip into the settlement money that we had decided to put aside for our son so it’s all worked

out in our favor and even though my mother got lucky legally she hadn’t been so lucky in her personal life I’ve been hearing a lot of gossips and have even been sent screenshots of my sister’s recent post on social media and she has denounced anything that her mother has done so far going so far as to claim that she had no knowledge of any of this until recently and that she doesn’t agree with her mother’s Behavior at all and things that she deserves to get convicted even though that’s not what she had been saying to me before

everything went wrong before that she had been strongly on her mother’s side from what I know she did this because her fiance and her in-laws had not been comfortable with the idea of him marrying into a family like this which is quite understandable actually and they had been considering postponing the wedding which is why she decided to cut off our mother in such a public way it sucks for our mom because all her life she had been dedicated to my sister and now this is what she gets it’s pretty sad but well-deserved and I don’t feel

bad for her at all now that I’m moving I’m going to have nothing to do with these people and I really can’t wait