my boyfriend broke up with me for the dumbest reason after I supported him for years but he forgot the house is in my name and now he’s living in his car let me preface this by saying I’ve been with Finn for 6 years six years of what I believed was love loyalty and definitely a whole lot of patience and when I say patience I mean I’ve been the one supporting him financially while he bounced between passion projects there was the YouTube channel that never took off despite him insisting he’d be bigger than PewDiePie the nft craz he swore he

was ahead of the curve on spoiler he wasn’t and his brief stin trying to make it big in crypto where he lost most of his savings during all of this I held us down mortgage me utilities me groceries also me car payments you guessed it me Finn was the dreamer and I was well I guess I was the fool who kept believing in those dreams every time he’d come to me with a new idea eyes bright with enthusiasm I’d push down my doubts and support him this time we be different he’d say and like an idiot I believed him things started getting weird about 2

weeks ago Finn began acting distant spending more time than usual on his phone and making these odd comments about needing space to grow and finding himself I didn’t think much of it at first he tends to get philosophical when he’s about to start another project but then he started making these comments about the state of the house which was new he’d point out unwashed dishes or unfolded laundry with this weird judgmental tone I’d never heard from him before then last week he sat me down at our kitchen table after I got home from

work he had this serious look on his face that I’d only seen a few times before usually when he was about to announce another failed Venture but what came out of his mouth made me question if I was living in some parallel universe I think we should break up he said you don’t do enough around the house I actually laughed I thought he was joking but when he didn’t crack a smile I felt something inside me just shift this man who I’ve basically been mothering for 6 years was accusing me of not contributing enough when I asked him

to clarify because surely surely he wasn’t serious he doubled down you never clean up after yourself and I feel like I do all the emotional labor around here I’m always the one who has to point out when things need to be done let me paint you a picture I work insane hours to keep us afloat while he’s at home brainstorming his next big move yes sometimes I’m too tired to do the dishes right away or fold laundry immediately sometimes I leave my coffee mug on the counter or forget to put my shoes away but you know what I do pay every single

bill that keeps a roof over our heads and food in our fridge meanwhile Finn’s biggest contribution to our household has been reorganizing the bookshelf by genre three times and throwing out my perfectly good Tupperware because it didn’t spark Joy anymore this is the same man who has a meltdown if the Wi-Fi goes out for more than 5 minutes guess who calls the provider every single time me every birthday holiday or weekend activity planned by me he won’t even order takeout without asking for my input three times and then

still managing to get my order wrong but here’s where it gets truly bizarre after his little breakup announcement Finn started acting like the house was already his he made this smug comment about how this will be a good reset for both of us and suggested I could move back in with my mom or something he even started Ed talking about how he was going to turn the guest room into his office once I was gone and how he might get a dog since there won’t be anyone to complain about the hair anymore that’s when it hit me he genuinely seemed to

have forgotten or maybe never realized whose name is actually on the deed to this house hint it’s not his not even close this house was my inheritance from my grandparents and I’m the sole owner every mortgage payment every repair every utility bill it’s all in my name I excused myself went upstairs and locked myself in our bedroom I’m not going to argue with him or try to change his mind no I’m going to let him sit in his little delusion for as long as he wants let him think he’s winning this breakup let him think I’m packing my bags and

heading out the door because here’s the thing Finn has no idea what’s coming he has no clue that he’s about to lose everything and honestly I can’t wait to watch him realize just how badly he screwed up first update so I mentioned in my last post that my boyfriend well ex-boyfriend now Finn broke up with me out of nowhere claiming I didn’t do enough around the house this of course was hilarious because I been the one paying for literally everything mortgage utilities groceries while he’s been working on himself for the past 3 years

oh and let’s not forget I also cooked cleaned and did every chore that wasn’t somehow attached to his beloved gaming setup but here’s the kicker after the breakup Finn acted like he owned the place literally I think it took him all of 5 Seconds to decide this house was his now he didn’t say it outright but the way he carried himself made it obvious he started lounging around like the king of a castle he hadn’t even built leaving messes everywhere and and playing his game

s until 4:00 a.m. like nothing had changed he even started telling me what I needed to pack up so I could leave in an orderly way meanwhile I was just sitting there in shock waiting to see how far this delusion would go spoiler it went very far about a week after the breakup Finn told me he was having a friend over this was during one of his moments where he barely looked at me muttering something about how I needed to respect his space respect his space in my house sure buddy I just nodded thinking okay let’s see who this friend is when the doorbell

rang I opened it to find a woman standing there with a bright smile and a bottle of wine her name was Mila and let me tell you she was perfectly nice polite even but it didn’t take a detective to figure out this wasn’t just a friend the way she looked at Finn uh they were very much together Finn didn’t even introduce us properly he just breezed past me like I was the maid giving Mila a little tour of the house my house and oh did he sell it like he was some kind of Real Estate Mogul this is the living room I’ve been thinking

about getting a new couch in here something more modern you know this is the kitchen I love the open layout it’s great for hosting this is my office it’s where I do most of my work these days I almost choked when he said that last one work the man hasn’t had a job since 2018 the office he was referring to is the spare bedroom I set up for him to maybe do some freelance projects but it’s mostly just where he plays fortnite Mila was eating it up though I could see her imagining herself living here settling into a life of Pinterest perfect bliss

meanwhile I was standing there in the kitchen gripping my coffee mug so hard I thought it might crack at this point I had had two options blow up and let them both know exactly how I felt or play it cool and let Finn dig himself into a hole I chose the second one honestly I wanted to see how far he’d take this little charade the entire evening Finn acted like he’d already moved on and was just graciously allowing me to stay until I figured things out he even had the nerve to pull me aside and say I think it’s best if we start working on a

timeline for when you’ll be out no rush of course but Mila and I need to start planning planning what a housewarming party in my living room I just smiled and said oh don’t worry about me I’m handling everything you should have seen his face so smug he really thought he’d won the next morning I made my move while Finn was still asleep I called a locksmith and had all the locks changed the locksmith was in and out in under an hour I paid him thanked him and sat down with a cup of tea to wait when Finn finally woke up and strolled into the

kitchen like he owned the place I casually told him by the way I had the locks changed this morning you’ll need to grab your things and leave by the end of the day you guys the Panic on his face he went pale what do you mean you changed the locks you can’t do that oh I absolutely can this is my house remember it’s in my name you’re not on the deed you’re not on the mortgage and now you’re not welcome here he tried to argue he tried to plead at one point he even tried to guiltrip me saying I thought you loved me I thought we were

building something together Mila came over during all of this probably expecting another cozy evening with her man instead she got to witness Finn packing his things while I stood there arms crossed reminding him not to forget his gaming chair she looked so confused and kept asking asking wait this isn’t your house Finn didn’t even try to answer her by the end of the day Finn was gone Milo was gone I poured myself a glass of wine sat down on the couch Finn had wanted to replace and thought about how close I’d come to losing everything

because I was too generous with my time my money and my patience never again oh and in case anyone’s wondering Finn is now couch surfing with friends I heard from a mutual acquaintance that Mila dumped him too when she realized he was unemployed broke and basically homeless karma’s a beautiful thing isn’t it second update I thought that was the end of it but apparently finnn wasn’t done embarrassing himself yet a few days after Finn left I got a call from our mutual friend Caleb who wanted to check in I could tell from his voice that he

was fishing for something so I asked him outright did Finn send you Caleb hesitated but eventually spilled the beans turns out Finn had been planning this breakup for months he’d been telling everyone friends acquaintances even his family that he was about to take over the house and start a new chapter he painted himself as the long-suffering boyfriend who had put up with my nagging for years according to him the house was basically hid because of all the work he’d put into making it a home I had to pause Caleb there

because I nearly choked laughing what work the man barely did his own laundry let alone anything to maintain the house I asked Caleb if Finn ever mentioned the small detail about the house being in my name he said you’d probably just leave when he asked and if you didn’t he’d figure it out oh Finn sweet delusional Finn apparently Finn was so confident that I’d roll over and give him the house that he threw himself a little Victory lap before the breakup he told people he was finally free to focus on his life and even made plans to host a

housewarming party again in my house the audacity Caleb also told me something that really pissed me off Finn had been downplaying everything I did for him he told people I was barely paying the bills and that he was the one holding it all together this was the guy who didn’t even know how much the mortgage was every month the lies were just so bold and bizarre that I couldn’t help but laugh I thanked Caleb for the info and started thinking about how I could wrap this up in a way that Finn would never forget at first I thought about just

letting it go Finn was gone the house was mine and I could finally move on but then I remembered all the crap he put me through years of emotional manipulation Financial freeloading and now this ridiculous smear campaign no I wasn’t going to let it slide I decided to hit Finn where it hurt most his ego first I sent a polite but firm group message to our mutual friends clarifying A few things the house was in my name 100% Finn never paid a dime toward the mortgage or bills any claims that he built our life together were outright

lies I kept it factual and unemotional but I made sure to include screenshots of our old Lisa green and utility bills with my name on them even included a photo of the deed with only my name I wasn’t about to let him twist The Narrative second I reached out to a local charity that helps people furnish their homes I donated all of Finn’s leftover junk his old desk a couch he never sat on and even the gaming chair he left behind in his rush to leave they were thrilled to take it and I was thrilled to see it Go lastly I decided

to let Finn’s parents know what had really been going on they’d always been kind to me and I felt like they deserve to know the truth I didn’t go into every detail but I told them enough to to make it clear that Finn’s victim narrative was a complete fabrication the group message blew up almost immediately most people were shocked but supportive saying they had no idea Finn was spinning such a ridiculous story a few of his closer friends tried to defend him saying he was going through a lot but I shut that down quickly we all go

through things I said but that doesn’t give you the right to lie and steal Finn of course found out about the message and called me Furious he accused me of ruining his life and said I had no right to air our dirty laundry I told him calmly that he’d been doing that himself for months I just corrected the record then I hung up and blocked him as for his parents they were horrified they apologized profusely and said they had no idea Finn had been treating me so poorly his mom even offered to pay me back for some of the bills he racked up

but I declined I wasn’t interested in money I just wanted them to know the truth the real cherry on top came a few weeks later when I ran into Mila at a coffee shop she approached me clearly embarrassed and apologized for getting involved she said Finn had lied to her about everything including how the house situation was Mutual then she told me the funniest thing I’ve heard all year Finn was living in his car apparently none of his friends wanted to take him in after learning the truth and his parents weren’t interested in bailing

him out either he burned too many bridges and now he was reaping the consequences I don’t wish homelessness on anyone but in this case I can’t say I feel too bad he made his bed or in this case his back seat and now he has to lie in it third update so remember how I mentioned Finn wasn’t done trying to get his house back well grab your popcorn because this story just got even more ridiculous last week I was having lunch with my sister Nora when she started acting weird she kept checking her phone and giving me these strange looks like

she wanted to tell me something but couldn’t figure out how finally I just asked her what was up don’t be mad she started which is never a good sign but Finn reached out to me last week I nearly spat out my drink what turns out Finn has been going around telling everyone who will listen that we had some sort of verbal agreement about the house according to him we were practically married we weren’t and he contributed significantly to the household he hadn’t but here’s the real kicker he asked Nora for money not just

a little money either he wanted enough to get back on his feet and fight for what’s rightfully his and she gave it to him before you grab your pitchforks let me explain Nora and I have always been close and she’s usually the smartest person I know but Finn apparently fed her this sob story about how he’d invested everything in our relationship and was now homeless because of me he even showed her screenshots of some bills he’d paid years ago conveniently leaving out the fact that he’ paid them with my money I felt bad for him Nora

admitted looking guilty he was living in his car and he seemed so sure about everything he said he just needed enough to get started again I sat there trying to process this betrayal how much did you give him 2,000 she mumbled into her coffee $2,000 I was about to lose it but then Nora pulled out her phone and showed me their text conversation as I read through it I realized something my sister might be smarter than I thought see Nora hadn’t just given him the money she’d made him sign a proper IOU complete with repayment terms and

interest she’d even gotten him to put his car up as collateral when I asked her why she went to all that trouble for a small loan she just smiled because I knew he was full of it she said I wanted proof of exactly how desperate he was getting plus I figured having a document showing he had to borrow money might come in handy later I could have hugged her right then but the story gets better remember Caleb our mutual friend who spilled the beans about Finn’s pre-breakup plotting well he sent me screenshots of Finn’s social media posts

where he’s been painting himself as this victim of a calculated gold digger who trapped him in a relationship just to steal his future earnings yes you read that right he thinks I spent 6 years supporting his unemploy self because I was after his future money the money he was definitely going to make from all those failed projects I funded the posts are full of vague accusations about how I manipulated him and took advantage of his trusting nature according to Finn’s new version of events he was the one who

supported me emotionally while I was unstable and unable to maintain healthy relationships this from the man who once had a three-hour meltdown because I bought the wrong brand of energy drink but here’s where it gets really interesting my friend Zoe has been keeping track of everyone Finn’s reached out to and apparently he’s been telling different stories to different people to some he’s the victim of a manipulative ex to others he’s a generous partner who gave up everything for me and to a few he’s even claiming we had some sort of

Business Partnership that I betrayed the stories keep getting more elaborate too last week he told someone I had promised to put his name on the deed as a birthday gift but then changed my mind out of spite pretty creative for someone who once forgot my birthday entirely because he was too busy trying to become a twitch streamer yesterday I got a series of increasingly unhinged messages from him about how he’s going to expose me to everyone we know he’s threatening to tell people about all my secrets though I’m really curious what Secrets

he thinks he has considering I’m the one who knows about his failed cryptocurrency Investments and that time he tried to become a professional dog photographer with my camera I haven’t responded to any of his messages but I did save them all something tells me this isn’t over yet Finn’s never been good at accepting reality and now that he’s burned through Norah’s money probably on another get-rich quick scheme I’m sure he’s cooking up some new plan to try to get what he thinks he deserves last update so last Sunday I

was doing my weekly grocery shopping when I literally ran into Finn’s mom at the store I tried to just smile and walk past but she grabbed my cart and said we need to talk now his mom has always been sweet to me even after everything that happened but this time she looked different worried but also kind of angry she asked if we could get coffee and something in her voice made me agree once we sat down she took a deep breath and said I need to tell you what Finn’s been up to because this has gone too far turns out Finn showed up at his parents

house last week with this elaborate story about how he was getting the house back according to him he had evidence that I had somehow tricked him into putting all the bills in my name he even claimed he had proof that he’d given me cash for the down payment his mom stopped him right there and reminded him that she and his dad had been there when I bought the house before Finn even moved in but Finn just talked over her going on about how he was building a case and needed to borrow some money to set things right when his parents

refused to give him money he completely lost it started throwing around accusations about how they never supported his dreams and were choosing my side over their own son his mom looked looked so tired as she told me this heun’s not the boy I raised she said I don’t know what happened to him but here’s where it gets really interesting she started telling me about all these things Finn had done that I never knew about like how he’d been telling his younger sister that he bought me out of the house months ago and that’s why he needed to borrow money

from her to renovate his property his sister being 19 and trusting her big brother gave him her savings or how he’d been going around to all their relatives telling different versions of the story to whoever would listen to some he claimed we were secretly married to others he said I had promised him the house in exchange for Sweat Equity his words not mine he even told his grandmother that I was holding his gaming equipment hostage the same equipment I donated to charity months ago his mom pulled out her phone and

showed me screenshots of a GoFundMe page he’d made the title help local man reclaim his home from manipulative X I almost choked on my coffee the page was full of completely madeup stories about how he’d invested his life savings into the house what savings and how I had manipulated the paperwork to cut him out he even posted pictures of my house claiming he’d done all these Renovations himself the only renovation Finn ever did was rearranging the furniture when he was procrastinating on job applications but the craziest part

people were actually donating not a lot but enough that Finn thought his plan was working he’d raised about $800 before his mom reported the page and got it taken down I had to do something she said he needs to Face Reality she told me Finn had been sleeping in his car in their driveway for the past week refusing to come inside unless they supported his cause every morning he’d leave claiming he had meetings about getting the house back every evening he’d return with some new story about his progress his mom had finally had

enough when she overheard him on the phone trying to convince Mila remember her to be a character witness about how the house was really his Mila to her credit had apparently laughed and hung up on him I’m not telling you this to get sympathy for him his mom said I’m telling you because I want you to be prepared heun not going to stop until he has no choice she then did something that surprised me she handed me a small photo album inside were pictures of Finn from the past few years pictures of him at family events holidays casual moments

in every single one he was on his phone or laptop supposedly working on his next big thing while everyone else was actually living their lives I should have seen it sooner she said how he used people how he always had an angle I enabled him for too long and I’m sorry you got caught up in it I tried to give the album back but she shook her head keep it maybe someday he’ll want to see the person he used to be but for now I need to do what I should have done years ago she told me she and Finn’s dad had made a decision they’re changing their

locks and cutting off his access to their Wi-Fi no more sleeping in their driveway no more enabling his delusions they’ve arranged for him to stay with his uncle in another state who’s offered him a real job no computers no schemes just honest work he either takes the offer and gets his life together or he figures it out on his own but we’re done watching him try to tear down other people’s lives because he refuses to build his own as we were leaving she hugged me and whispered thank you for showing him there are consequences I

just wish he’d learn from them I watched her walk away and felt this weird mix of emotions relief that his own family finally sees him for who he is sadness for the person he could have been