refusing to go to the family vacation because my sister is making a demand for me to babysit at 23 a.m. was repeatedly stuck playing the part of Helper and babysitter on family outings I had to move out of my parents house because I kept being forced to help watch my three nephews last year we took a family vacation in summer to the coast I rode along with my parents and they paid for my hotel room only I had to share the room with three Rowdy boys because my sister and her husband wanted a room to themselves I was promised time to do my

own things on the vacation but instead I ended up having to help with these kids I complained to every about it and was reminded I was there for free and then we pretty much just did only one thing I wanted to do which was tour an art gallery I like doing this whenever I’m at the coast but the kids find it boring this year my parents have a beach trip plan for June and they assumed I’d be riding along the same way as last year but I refused I said I’d be driving myself and paying for my own hotel stay to have my own room my parents were

shocked and tried to remind me of the cost I said it was no worry I’ve got a good job and a decent running car I can more than afford it that’s when the butt started I stated the previously listed things as why I’ll be driving myself and paying for myself I want to be able to enjoy this vacation as an adult and not be treated like a child like last year my parents told my sister and she called to blow up at me that I’ll be ruining the vacation if I’m off doing my own thing while she has to Wrangle her three

boys I ended up yelling at her that last year all she did was rope me into her mess I didn’t really get to do much of anything I wanted to do and I was treated like the bad guy for wanting to just go to an art gallery I’m a grown man I deserve my own vacation too now my sister is not speaking to me and my parents are still trying to convince me too just ride with them to keep the peace I’m still refusing but the pressure is getting to me am I the jerk for not giving in I know they’ll have a pretty hard time when they won’t have

another person there to help edit it’s barely been an hour since I posted but my sister is apparently a Reddit lurker in the mornings and she saw my post not only is she furious with me but she’s also upset no one in the comments is siding with her to make it short she went on a big rant about how it’s so hard to be a parent to triplets and the least I could do is help because I’m young and single and she needs a break I stood my ground on my decision and now she’s calling our parents to get them involved I’m expecting a call from them

any minute update well I’m off work now so I can tell more of what went down I guess you could say it’s over my sister got our parents involved they looked at my post and were absolutely horrified by The Continuous influx of commenters yes they’re very angry with me that I posted here but I told them that if they just listened to me to begin with I’d have never needed to I’m sick of the whole keep the peace mentality that sacrifices me to Plate my sister they in turn went off on my sister and to make a long

story short the whole vacation has been canceled the hotel wasn’t booked yet anyway but my parents are arguing with my sister my sister is blaming me and my nephews are crying because they aren’t going to the beach my sister called me at lunch and basically implied I have no life which is why I have time to help I recorded that and told our parents and that’s currently what they’re fighting about small update I wasn’t going to update again but here’s a little more parents said that they won’t ever push babysitting of my nephews on me again

and have agreed that what happened last year was unfair to me right now they’re very angry with my sister for for telling me I should help her because she thinks I have no life my sister is playing the victim and my brother-in-law is basically saying nope to the whole mess and spending most of his time at work thank you to everyone who has commented you made my day update one my parents apologized my sister did not at least at first a week ago I made this throwaway account to ask am I the jerk a question I was found to be anything but

T I have too much to say to post in am I the jerk is an update so a friend recommended I come here my posting on am I the jerk essentially open a Pandora’s Box in the family basically my parents and older sister had become very comfortable with me helping with the child care of my young triplet nephews I didn’t leave home till I was 22 because I was trying to save money while also going to college a scholarship covered a lot and living at home kept me from getting Rising debt due to my working part-time as well I’m very thankful for

this however after college everyone just seemed to act like I had endless time on my hands and convinced me along on a family vacation in this so-called vacation I was forced to babysit my three at the time six-year-old nephews I even had to share a hotel room with them and believe me those kids did not listen to a damn thing I said on the first night until I called their mother twice and I was treated like the bad guy for wanting to do other things during the trip like if it’s something the family doesn’t enjoy as a whole then it doesn’t

happen which was extremely hypocritical because I’m family and wasn’t included in that vote and you can bet I aired this grievance with my parents after my last post and they have acknowledged being in the wrong after that awful vacation last year I decided it was time to move out and did so before the summer even ended which surprised everyone as I gave them no warning i’ landed a great job pretty much right after college thanks to an internship and used moving as an excuse to drop my commute from 45 minutes to 15 my sister hated this the

most because it meant no more free babysitting on weekends but she still tried to make me do it I cave sometimes usually by being bribed with pizza and this sort of became a new Norm but then last month my parents announced plans for another family vacation to the same place along the coast and they basically wanted it to go the same way I immediately saw it for what it was a trap I knew that if I rode with my parents and let them buy the hotel rooms I would be screwed over the same way as last time so I just casually stated I’d

drive myself and pay for myself and that’s when the storm started when my parents realized they couldn’t entrap me like before they resorted to borderline begging and my sister practically tried to order me to go with a flow through gaslighting news flash I didn’t after I didn’t cave to my sister’s demands I made the am I the jerk post after days of harassment and then my sister somehow spotted the post in less than an hour what followed was Pandora’s Box at first the family was against me my sister called our parents

and they called me when I still had a little time to talk in the morning my parents were on the phone with me while also reading my post I asked them if anything in the post was a lie they sort of steered around it and called the post an exaggeration but I pointed out numerous details that made it pretty much on the mark then I told them to check the comments they were already far too many to read I was repeatedly refreshing the page on my home PC and telling them how many comments there were then I told them I was sick of

their mentality of keeping the Peace by forcing me to Plate my sister then I said I was out of time and we would have to resume this later while my parents were positively horrified that hundreds if not thousands of people were commenting in a matter of hours and later on I told them that the numbers had basically doubled and were still growing which only added to their horror so I guess they were forced to take a long look at their own actions my sister tried to call me to while I was at work but my phone was on silent till my

lunch break so all she could do was leave messages and texts but she was persistent and managed to get through to me when I was eating my lunch the gist of the conversation was my post had taken our parents away from her side and now they were mad at her in the ensuing argument between them my parents canceled the entire vacation yes they later acknowledged they just passed the blame out of embarrassment and a fully accepted fault they told me no excuses could excuse the fact they made me their go to free babysitter when I wasn’t even

living at home anymore they did try to backtrack a little by pointing out they never charged me rent while I was in college but I reminded them kids don’t ask to be born and I was doing my hardest to make my own way then I pointed out my father had the same kind of leg up from his parents they let him live free of charge at home while he was in college that basically ended any argument my parents had left when my sister managed to call me at lunch I presented the facts to her and she showed her true colors she implied that

I have no life and that my free time on weekends should be spent helping her because she is tired and unable to even go out without bringing her children with her unless someone is watching them she is a stay-at-home mother with a husband that makes a decent salary they live in a pretty decent house that’s owned not rented and to be frank my nephews aren’t really my responsibility they just forced them on me and expected it to stay that way my sister angrily hung up on me but I’d recorded the call and then played it to my parents later

they were Furious and they basic went to war with my sister my sister dug her heels in blamed me and then doubled down on her belief my life should circle around hers I told her that was the most narcissistic and entitled thing she’s ever said about me it took days but her husband finally stepped in and forced her to apologize to me I’d never seen her cowed like that by anyone but she was on the verge of crying it ended up being admitted that one of the reasons I was the go to babysitter was because my sister didn’t trust strangers it was

never about the money or was it actually my brother-in-law thought my sister was paying me for my time watching her kids after I moved out of my parents house she didn’t even give me gas money just gave me cash that was enough to order pizza for both myself and the kids and pocket of the rest my sister had been short changing me for months he blew up at her when this came out during her half-ass apology and she was forced to pay me what she owed me in cash entirely from her own savings which she looked very sore about then my brother-in-law

apologized to me for his own inaction in letting my sister walk all over me and promised they’d get a normal babysitter from now on yes it’ll cause a bit of a drop in the bucket for them but my sister will be getting date nights back then came the family meeting the other day’s evening we all gathered up at my parents house and everything was laid bare apologies all around and whatnot then my parents reinstated the family vacation and yes I still plan to drive myself and pay for my own hotel stay I’ll even stay in a completely different

hotel if my sister tries to revert me to child care and I have stated this she’s promised me that won’t happen and if I don’t update again after the vacation in another month or so then you’ll all know everything is fine update 2 my sister called me demanding i’ take my posts down now she’s more upset than ever to know how far it spread having a family that knows about your Reddit account has its disadvantages yesterday my sister called me after I got off work to ask me if comments are still coming in she said

she cannot bear the negativity of looking at them herself because the comments are all so hurtful towards her so I was brutally honest at least 10 comments are still coming in Daily and most of them more or less say the same things about her she started crying and demanding I delete my Reddit posts but I refused and told her she can cry to anyone she wants but the posts stay up because they are my Assurance she won’t try to treat me like crap anymore after all she literally felt like my life should revolve around hers didn’t pay me

the babysitting money she was supposed to and pocketed it for herself and forced me to be the constant babysitter on last year’s family vacation so I had pretty much no fun the entire time is it really any Wonder people are having so much hate for her when she treated me like that then when I mentioned the posts have already spread to other websites because I was asked a couple of times to let an article be made about my situation and there are some videos that were read as well my sister shrieked hearing that and hung up my parents then

called me begging I take the post down I’ve refused and stated that I only did this because they didn’t stick up for me this would have never happened if theyd told my sister to treat me like an equal and not a servant I’m not her Butler babysitter or handyman I’m her freaking brother and a grown ass man wouldn’t they be tired of this crap in my shoes too they agreed but still begged i’ take the posts down I refused and said that I’ll keep making more if they don’t start sticking up for me more when my sister comes crying to them let her

clean up her own messes because all the enabling of her led to this I didn’t father those kids I’ve got a life of my own a career I’m still new to and hopefully soon enough a girlfriend as there’s someone I want to ask out I’m moving my life forward and I won’t be held back they can either step out of my way or keep trying to enable my sister but I assured them that the ladder would end badly for them the only way this posting on Reddit will stop is if the drama stops I’ve kept things Anonymous and I’ve got a right to vent my very

valid frustrations well that left my mother crying my father just went silent and I said tears don’t move me they know what it’ll take to end this and it’s to stop stop enabling my sister well my sister called me again to yell at me that our parents have told her they aren’t dealing with this anymore and to figure it out herself oh and they told her to be nicer to me too I just pictured her ey twitching as she internally screamed after hearing that be nice to my kid brother what is this do I look it up on Google yeah I was

that sarcastic to her but it left her crying too when I hung up my brother-in-law called me later to get my side of the story he was mad I’m still posting and made his wife cry but I explained everything to him and he said he’d have another talk with my sister I’m hoping this drama finally ends here but the family vacation is still on for late June I’ve already booked my room and put in for a day off work so we can all leave on a Friday my room is also not near the ones my parents sister Bill and nephews will be using in fact it’s

not even on the same floor and when we go to the coast when it’s not a family activity I’m going to go where I want and do what I want and you can bet I’m going to tour those art galleries pig out on local food and just enjoy being Carefree for a change update three after the family vacation while the family vacation is over some things both good and bad when as expected good in that being my parents didn’t enable my sisters trying to make me babysit oh yes she did try but bad in that being my sister did try to find out which room I

was in but that failed and got her in trouble with her husband again firstly I made sure to tell the hotel in advance that they were not to give out any of my information to anyone who asked except for police if something needing that were to come to pass they assured me over the phone they would not tell a soul then on the day of the vacation I left earlier in the morning than the rest of the family I knew they wouldn’t be able to get moving as a group to at least 10 a.m. so I left at 9 a.m.

check-in wouldn’t be until 1 p.m. but I wanted to make sure I had a head start I sent out an fwi group text and was off like a shot to make the three-hour drive my parents were upset because they’d planned a family brunch on the way but I pointed out I was never made aware of that so it was canceled in favor of fast food like I planned I arrived to the hotel early too early for checkin but I told the desk staff I was there to make sure my parents or sister didn’t give them my information they claimed they don’t do that but I told told them I

know for a fact it still happens sometimes so I’m covering my ass when they happen to be dealing with my mother and my sister and three potentially crying boys trying to guilt them at the desk they had better not yield and I wanted to know if they try anything they awkwardly promised me no one but me would get access to my room then I decided to go out and get something to eat I came back more than an hour later and there was my parents car and my bill’s big SUV I went to the desk to check in after making sure the lobby was

clear and it was then I asked the clerk if my family had asked about me and where I was staying in the hotel yeah they did but the clerk refused to tell them my sister had apparently tried to push it but her husband shut her up I checked in went to my room and then called my folks I didn’t mention I knew what they tried with the clerk and they conveniently didn’t mention it either then we all met up as a family to go out and tour around my sister at one point asked me to watch her kids for a moment to which I replied hell no because I

knew exactly what she was doing she would pretend to be gone for a moment and then would be gone for an hour I called her out and her husband told her to stop trying to make me watch their kids what did my sister do she just started crying on the spot that she needs a break her husband scolded her that he’s a tired man but he wasn’t complaining my mother have me a nasty look so I went right to her and said that if she tries to even think that I should be watching those kids I would walk away from this family vacation

right now it’s not my job and I’m sick and tired of her and my sister acting like it is well that made my mother start crying too and then she just started repeating the words you’re right over and over again this is another old tactic of hers she tries to look pathetic to guilt me but I just said am right and to just let it go before walking away neither my mother or sister tried anything for the rest of the day when we got back to the hotel after dinner my family were all crowding the elevator but I didn’t get in with them

they asked why and I said I’d wait for the next one my sister glared at me because she knew exactly what I was doing then I just sat in the lobby watching YouTube on my phone for 15 minutes and then took the elevator up I was on a different floor and on the other end of the hotel I had a splendid night and the next morning we all went out for breakfast but I made sure they left first I was the last last one out just like I was the last one in the night before breakfast went fine then I gave an fwi that I was going to be doing

my own thing for the day my mother tried to bring up plans to go to the aquarium and a couple of other places so I said i’ meet them for those but the rest of the day was mine until family dinner they accepted this and that day went fine too back at the hotel that evening though my sister caught me leaving my room she must have been stalking the whole floor looking for me I went back to my room to chill a bit before dinner because I was tired from walking so much and my sister was just down the Hall when I left my room to meet them for

dinner she tried to Corner me and say that I’d ruin the family vacation for her because now it wasn’t hardly any different for her than at home since she had to Wrangle her kids I called bullpit because my parents were helping her a lot then told her that I’m sick of this song and dance of being her scapegoat and it’s already over so leave me the hell alone and get on with your own life then I started walking with her yelling hey I’m trying to talk to you I told her I didn’t give a crap and was going to dinner she followed me to the elevator

and we both said nothing to each other I didn’t stay silent and told my parents and my brother-in-law that my sister had stalked me to find my room she was scolded like a child she had a pity party I told her to stop milking it and grow up the old days when she could force her will on me were over and then I walked out of the lobby into my car this time I was the first one to dinner when everyone else arrived my sister looked depressed but not a damn thing was said about what happened before and that was just fine with me my sister

refrained from making a contact with me the entire evening and this time I didn’t give a crap about riding in the elevator with the rest of them and I told them bluntly that unless it was an emergency no one is to come knocking on my door I had to do not disturb sign for a reason the final day everything went swimmingly neither my sister or mother bothered me at all they’d fully surrendered at this point yes during the whole vacation I did play with my nephews a bit I’m not a complete jerk I didn’t Stonewall them I kept up being

the fun uncle just not the babysitter Uncle the kids didn’t even seem to care they just wanted to play I even bought each of them one of those little baggies of crystals and Polished stones to take home as a souvenir there was a bit of mild Dr drama between my sister and her husband but that was just some small disagreements that I didn’t bother to pay attention to all in all I’d call the vacation a win because it finally hit home for my mother and sister that the old way they did things involving me is over and I have my own life update four

mother and sister saw my last post they really don’t know when to let well enough alone hey Mom hey sis I warned you that if you didn’t stop I would go right back to Reddit and here I am the short of it is that my mother and sister saw my last post and freaked out my sister was stalking my account for days because she knew I’d post well what did she expect that I would just say everybody had a good time she called me and cried that I made her look like a bad mother I ended up replying well if the glass slipper fits my sister argued

with me some more but I asked her to name anything in the post that was a lie she tried several times but I pointed out that every detail was spoton so what does she do she calls mommy then my mother showed up at my door demanding I delete all the posts I told her no and now I have ammunition for one more I ended up making her leave crying I spoke with my mother and father over over the phone later and bluntly told them that their enabling of my sister led to the previous family Dynamic I will never go back to how things were so if they have

any hope of that left I’m snuffing it out for good my parents then told my sister for the love of God to stop blaming me and to leave me alone they can’t take the stress of my retaliation anymore well my sister had a literal no one loves me pity party and my parents had to snap her back to reality my brother-in-law hasn’t called pretty sure he’s staying in different SL neutral but this can’t be good for his marriage or my familial connection to him so out of respect to my brother-in-law I am sorry man but your wife just pushed me too far

currently my parents are insisting my sister gets counseling because she can’t be a mom and juggle the habits of her old life too woman up as they say either way I’m hoping this is my last post you hear that sis if you don’t stop thinking I should have been your personal slave babysitter Watchdog etc etc and want to keep acting like the whole world is against you because you can’t Lord over me then we can’t be around each other maybe we can get along and move past this crap if you’re willing don’t give me a reason to write anything else and

the Reddit posts about you and here I’ll only post ones involving me and the treatment I get from people treat me like a decent human being and this will be over capiche update my parents and I had a long talk in which they have apologized and for the moment we have agreed that I’ll keep a bit of a distance until Thanksgiving I also had a man-to-man talk with my brother-in-law last night over some cold beers he told my sister she needed counseling or he would separate from her and they are in the process of finding her a counselor

he also told me that while my sister was an absolute witch to me at home she is a very loving and endearing wife but she also admitted that she liked being an only child we’re nearly a decade apart in age so my sister held on to some resentment about that for a long time and just let it build up she’s agreed that she does need counseling and we be going as soon as they get it set up they’ve also found a qualified babysitter to look after my nephews aside from those things my brother-in-law did admit that he was

angry with me too but didn’t step in when I needed him so we’ve agreed that this was all just a very bad situation that needs to be ended so we’re just going to let it rest in peace from here on out lastly these posts have gotten me a girlfriend the girl I like had a feeling it was me after she read them and was just waiting for me to say something and we’ll be going on our first date tonight